Reflections on James 3
The words Enron, Nixon, or Benedict Arnold paint a very specific picture in my mind. I think automatically of scandal or treason. Dishonest people are rarely remembered for the accomplishments earned before or even after their folly. In this same light, people of public prominence are held to a much higher standard than the average person on the street. Words are very powerful. They could be spoken positively over my wife and continue to grow and foster the love between us. They could also be spoken over a young child and result in years of remorse and hurt. With our words, we can throw someone’s life into utter chaos or peacefully calm the storm existing in their path.
Although this is difficult for me to relate to (fortunately), but some people have never been told they are loved, beautiful, or any other positive comment. They have heard their entire life that they will amount to nothing and no one will ever love them. Some people who have heard those things still struggle with being loved and cherished by others. This is why being cautious with my speech is so important. I don’t know what kind of day or life my co-worker has had, but if I choose to speak life instead of death, it could make a world of difference in their life.
Now this does not mean we should withhold positive criticism. We must, however, be mindful with how we joke with others in order for our positive criticism to be perceived in a positive light. If I joke around with my buddy about how funny he has been smelling then later go up to him and ask him why he hasn’t been taking a shower, he is going to be less likely to tell me about his hardship of potential conflict with his spouse or even how his water has been turned off at home because he can’t pay his bills. I have missed a chance to make an impact on someone’s life just for a couple minutes of laughter. This is all hypothetical, but you never know what kind of struggles others are going through around you.
You are either on the team of encouragement or on the team of belittlement. If you are like me, you are mostly unaware of the impact you have on those around you. How is it possible to be a spring of fresh water instead of the salt on their wounds? Live wisely, humbly, and well. Try not to simply rely on your words to carry out your positive intentions because words might not be as clear as you think. If I tell someone how much I appreciate them, it might do wonders for their soul. Some people, however, are not affirmed by words. Go out and get them a card or write them a note. Take the time to show them how much you appreciate them. Be honest in how you talk to others and slow to speak so you won’t have to tell stories and make up the truth all the time. That is how God has provided a way for us to tame the beast within us. Treat others with kindness, love, and dignity.
